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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
We invited handsome and pretty idol singers...
who look refreshing just like spring.
Do Young, Jae Hyun, and Mark of NCT 127!
(Do Young, Jae Hyun, and Mark of NCT 127)
Welcome!
JooE, Yeon Woo, and Nancy of Momoland!
(JooE, Yeon Woo, and Nancy of Momoland)
JooE, this is your first appearance on Hello. How do you feel?
I've been enjoying Hello.
And I've always wanted to try out the slide.
Do you have any worries? If you do, you can send us your story later.
Yes, of course. I have a lot of worries.
- What are they? - What are your worries?
I sleep a lot.
- It's hard... - You have trouble waking up early?
How do you wake up in the morning?
Yeon Woo kicks me to wake me up.
- She kicks you? - I see.
- Even kicking her doesn't work. - That's right.
The fact that she can't wake up early could be your worry.
They share the same room.
(Please tell us worries of yourself, your family, or your friends.)
NCT 127 members, do you have any worries?
I can keep a straight face,
- but my ears are too honest. - Do they turn red?
They turn red so easily.
(I know what it's like.)
I know how he must feel.
(We can tell by his ears.)
- Your ears turn red easily. - I can't hide my emotions.
- Right. - My ears turn red.
Is one of the four women here your ideal type?
- His ears turned red. - His ears are turning red.
- They turned red. - There must be his ideal type here.
- I didn't expect this. - His ears really turned red.
- Look at his ears. - They turned red.
My goodness.
(Why did Dong Yeob's ears turn red?)
(We know how you feel now.)
I get worried quite easily.
- I'm technologically illiterate. - I see.
He's never bought anything online before.
- Really? - He's never bought anything online?
Why? Why haven't you done it?
It's because...
I lack spirit for challenge.
That's not even a challenge.
(Is spirit for challenge necessary to do it?)
You don't even need it to shop online.
How did he become an idol singer?
Then did you...
In fact, Do Young is...
Actor Gong Myoung's younger brother.
- I see. - Right. No wonder.
- He appeared on our show. - Yes, he did.
No wonder he looked so familiar.
I thought he was my son.
He's Gong Myoung's younger brother.
When he appeared on Hello,
he became frustrated while listening to the story.
(Episode 284 aired on July 18, 2016)
(He cried his heart out, and it became the talk of the town.)
Why would you do that?
Ask him again.
- I saw the clip on the internet. - It was on the internet.
- I sent him a captured image. - Did you show him?
He felt embarrassed and said he took a variety show too seriously.
Gong Myoung must be very sensitive.
He would've said it enthusiastically if they were on good terms.
It seems to me that Do Young doesn't like his brother so much.
- Is he your real brother? - Yes, he is.
That's a relief.
I'm relieved. I wanted to ask the same question.
NCT 127 recently released a new album.
Tell us about your new song.
The song title is "Touch".
- Please show us. - "Touch".
(Please show us!)
Music, please.
Here we go. Go, Do Young.
You look amazing!
(They fill the stage with their sweetness.)
(Touch, I can feel you)
(Their hearts are fluttering.)
(They're also manly.)
(Cute and bubbly)
(Singing)
(They look like spring itself.)
(May NCT 127 be successful!)
Today, we have three worries as always.
Show us the keywords please.
Here are today's keywords.
(The keywords are revealed.)
- "Cinderella Man". - "The Man Who Will Likely Fail".
"Are All Elder Brothers Like Him?"
I'm a 29-year-old grown woman.
There is a man who always looks at me...
and thinks about me.
"Daughter, what are you doing?"
"Daughter, let's eat dinner together."
Is he my dad? No.
He's my elder brother who is four years older than me.
"My daughter, come here, and sit on my lap."
"You're cold, aren't you? Come here. I'll hug you."
He treats me like a little child.
- Everyone is shocked. - And that's not all.
"Brother, I think I might be a little late..."
"because I'm at my friend's birthday party."
(Her brother)
"Hey! That's too dangerous for a girl."
"Where are you now? Send me the address."
Let me tell you again.
I'm going to turn 30 next year.
(I'll be 30 next year.)
I'll be 30. I'll be 30.
There's more.
"Hey. Why are you crying?"
"Actually..."
"I had a dream about you getting married."
My gosh.
I mean, why would he cry over that?
Are all elder brothers like him?
My brother seems like I'm everything to him.
Please help me stop him.
- How would you feel? - He sounds creepy.
No. No.
How is your elder brother?
He used to treat me like a little brother,
but now, he treats me like a celebrity.
- How? - How does he treat you?
He called me from the military base...
to ask me to get Twice members' autographs.
- Oh, right. - He told me to try to...
get closer with them quickly.
- How much older is he than you? - He's one year older than me.
- Then you two must be like friends. - They must be like friends.
I see.
What? Sorry?
I addressed her brother politely...
because I thought he was older than me.
- Are you the same age as him? - He's younger than me.
Is that so?
Did you not know that until today?
- Did you just find out here? - Yes.
She asked JooE if he's really one year older than her.
Why didn't you tell her...
- that he's younger than her? - Right.
I thought she addressed all men like that.
(I thought she addressed all men like that.)
(JooE thought it was a norm for Yeon Woo.)
(I'm Yeon Woo of Momoland.)
Since we meet a lot of men,
I thought it was natural.
- "I thought it was natural." - I see.
(Shall I change my attitude while I'm at it?)
Let's meet our guest. Please come out!
(Whose elder brother treats her like his daughter?)
My goodness.
(Stumbling)
(At that moment)
(Wait for me.)
(I'd do anything for our guest.)
(Don't worry, and hold my hand.)
(Why is my heart fluttering?)
When he jumped in the ball pool,
he looked as if he was going to save someone drowning.
Please introduce yourself.
Hello.
I'm Kim Da Bin. I'm from Gyeonggi Province.
Hi, Da Bin.
(Welcome to Hello.)
How exactly does he treat you like his daughter?
What does he do to make it look like he treats you like his daughter?
He calls me too often.
If I don't answer his calls,
he keeps texting me.
"What are you doing? Where are you?"
When he finally gets hold of me,
he asks me why I didn't pick up until then.
He keeps on about that for at least between 20 and 30 minutes.
- Over the phone? - Yes.
Even dads don't do that to their daughters.
That's right. Even dads don't do that to their daughters.
After 10pm, he starts nagging me while asking where I am.
He says, "I'm on my way there to pick you up, so come out."
I'm sure women hate it even when their boyfriend behave like that.
Does he pick you up sometimes?
- Yes, he picks me up all the time. - "All the time"?
That sounds convenient though.
- That's ridiculous. - It sounds convenient.
Why did he say he behaves like that?
He said it's simply because he's my elder brother,
- and all brothers are like him. - I see.
I asked people around me who have elder brothers.
Most of them call their sisters once a month and ask if they're alive.
- That's normal. - "If they're alive".
"Are you alive? Gosh."
(This is a common conversation between siblings.)
- Ever since... - Did something happen...
that makes your brother still worry about you?
I would feel comfortable if that were the case.
- Nothing happened. - Nothing happened.
I can't even drink.
(She doesn't even drink.)
He's not just worried about me. I think he became obsessed with me.
Has your brother joined you at your work get-together?
That's possible.
If he's obsessed with her so much...
Has he ever joined your work get-together?
- Has he? - He might have.
- Indeed. - No. He doesn't do that,
but he comes to pick me up every time I have work get-together.
So my work colleagues tell me to ask my brother to join us.
- They all know about him. - Yes.
Has it been like that your entire life?
Or did he become like that at some point?
Our parents got divorced when we were children.
- I see. - We lived with our dad,
and our mom lived alone.
Since their divorce,
- he has been... - He thought he should protect you.
I think he became obsessed with that thought.
- So until now... - He's such a good brother.
I understand why he urges you to come home early.
How does he behave when you're home?
He keeps me in check pretending he's not watching me.
When I stay in my room with the door closed,
he asks why I closed the door, and whom I spoke with on the phone.
(Why did you close the door? Who did you speak to?)
"Who did you talk to on the phone that long?"
Also, even when there's an empty seat next to him,
he says, "Come here, and sit here."
- On his lap? - Yes.
He asks you to sit on his lap?
- Yes. - Then do you sit on his lap?
- I'm sure you don't. - If I refuse to do that...
- Is he disappointed? - He seems a little disappointed.
- Then do you sit on his lap? - She sat on his lap.
- You sit on his lap? - Just for a moment.
- Do you really sit on his lap? - Do you really do that?
You should make sure to sit on his lap just for a moment.
She's 29, and her brother...
(His love for his sister is suffocating.)
Usually, you expect your boyfriend to hug you.
But in my case, it's my brother.
- "Come here." - "You must be cold. I'll hug you."
He hugs me asking if I'm cold.
"Come here. I'll hug you."
- When I'm sitting down like this... - Be honest with us.
Doesn't it make you feel uncomfortable?
Is it that you're used to that?
Normally, girls think it's gross.
- It's gross indeed. - I didn't realize it...
when people said it was too much.
- It had been that way for long. - I didn't know.
I realized that we shouldn't behave like that.
What if your brother gets discharged from the military...
and says, "Come here, and sit on my lap"?
Her brother is only one year older than her.
It's different between me and my brother.
My brother is annoyed even when my arm touches his.
- "Stay away from me." - You know what I mean, right?
- "Did you not take a shower?" - "Did you not take a shower?"
- "Did you not take a shower?" - That's how he treats me.
Have you ever told your brother how you really feel?
- That you're stressed. - One time,
I said, "Could you stop behaving like this?"
My brother suddenly looked so downcast...
as if his whole world was falling down.
His voice started shaking.
He sniffled and said, "I'll try not to behave like that..."
"if it makes you uncomfortable."
I felt bad when he said that.
- My goodness. - "If it makes you uncomfortable,"
"I'll try not to behave like that."
I couldn't go on as I felt bad for him.
So I just put up with him after that.
Then have you ever dated a man?
I hid it. I didn't tell him I was seeing someone.
When he found out about my boyfriend,
he complained that I hadn't told him before.
- Didn't you think of moving out? - Right.
She could live alone. I don't think her brother would allow her.
- So... - I think he would move out too.
(If you want to move out, you have to live with me.)
(No way.)
Since our mom fell ill last year...
- Have you been seeing her often? - Yes.
So I moved in with my mom.
- I thought if we live separately, - Right.
he would nag me less, but...
- Since he couldn't see me, - Did he nag you even more?
he nagged me even more.
He asked me what I was doing more often.
He even asked me if I ate cooked rice or noodles.
He asked her if she ate cooked rice or noodles.
You could make him stop asking that if you eat as much as I do.
If he asks me what I ate, I would say, "Here we go."
(Are you sure you'll be okay?)
"Listen up carefully."
"All right? This will end late at night."
In fact, we've had a quest in a similar situation.
- That's right. - He was too much.
- He followed her to her honeymoon. - He tagged along with them.
- He tagged along with them. - He tagged along with them.
- He followed her to her honeymoon. - That's not all.
Tell them what happened next.
He said he would live with his sister and her husband.
- That's right. - My gosh.
Your brother is better than him, right?
I'm afraid he might do the same.
Let's meet Da Bin's brother.
He doesn't look like what we heard.
Your sister came here because she's worried.
Do you understand why she's worried?
To be honest, I still don't understand why it's a worry.
Do you not understand why everyone in the audience jeered?
I'm doing what I should do as her elder brother.
I don't know why it's a worry.
Most of elder brothers don't behave like you do.
My sister is still like a baby to me.
There's no baby who is 29.
There is one over there.
(Right in front of me)
That was unexpected. "There's one over there."
- "She's still a baby." - This is driving me crazy.
- He's unbelievable. - I have goosebumps.
- My goodness. - Show us how you call her.
When we're alone together, I jokingly call her that.
Please show us.
I call her like this. "Daughter."
Does she respond?
No, she doesn't.
- It's because you're not her dad. - It's because she's your sister,
and she's not a baby anymore.
(I'm an adult now.)
Why do you call her so often?
It's just that I'm worried if she can't be reached.
I wish I could drive her to work and pick her up at night.
But that's not possible.
What do you do for a living?
I'm working at a courier company.
You must be busy. Do you have enough free time?
I have free time in the afternoon since I work early in the morning.
I see.
However, you don't live with her now as she moved to your mom's house.
It feels like I married off my daughter.
She's living with your mom. What are you talking about?
That's why I'm worried about her more than before.
I'm afraid she might do bad things and lie about it.
She told us that she had never caused any trouble.
Do you think you came to think you should take care of her...
after your parents got divorced just as she said?
That's probably when I started thinking I'm the only one...
who can take care of her.
How old were you when your parents got divorced?
I was in fourth grade.
- Do you also scold her? - Yes, I do.
- Does he scold you? - Yes, he does.
For what? Give us an example.
One day, we were eating out at a barbecue restaurant.
I accidentally got oil in my eye.
I unconsciously said, "Gosh."
- Since then... - Was that it?
Tell us what you said after that. You must've said a swear word.
"Gosh. Darn."
"Gosh. Darn it."
I didn't swear.
He stopped eating after hearing that.
- He put on a serious face. - "How dare you behave like that?"
"How could you be so rude to your elder?"
Did she yell loudly?
Enough for everyone to hear her? "Gosh!"
(Swearing loudly)
If that's the case, she deserved to be scolded.
He's so unusual.
- He's... - He's acting like her dad.
acting like a dad whose child is in elementary school.
Does he nag you about basic manners as well?
When I'm eating, he says, "Why do you use chopsticks so awkwardly?"
- "Don't make noise while eating." - I see.
"Stop watching TV. Stop playing with your phone."
Does he not make noise while eating?
I once complained about that.
I guess he does that too.
"Don't nag at me when you make noise while eating too."
He got really angry because of that.
(He nagged her even more.)
If he's overly affectionate to you in front of others,
you must feel embarrassed since you're not so young anymore.
Have you ever felt that way before?
When I was working at a company,
he came to work to pick me up every day.
When I forgot to bring my lunch to work...
- Did he bring it to you? - He came unannounced.
I checked missed calls from him, so I called him back.
He said he was in the lobby to give me my lunch.
He told me to come down.
On Valentine's Day, as if he was handing out promotional goods,
he gave chocolates to my work colleagues...
while saying, "Please help my little sister Da Bin at work."
My work colleagues said he was like my boyfriend.
- I understand. - They said he was weird.
Even her boyfriend wouldn't have done that.
I'm afraid they might think he has romantic feelings for me...
- and treat him like a weirdo. - They could think that way.
Did you do that for her sake?
What's so wrong with taking care of my sister?
There's nothing wrong about it, but if you do that...
- to her work colleagues... - We're not saying it's wrong.
Honestly... There are special days to celebrate like Valentine's day.
I meant to do that each of the days,
but my sister stopped me.
If she hadn't complained, I would've continued doing it.
Do you have a boyfriend now?
No, I don't.
- I think you do. - Are you lying because of him?
- No, I really don't have one. - No way.
He didn't even allow me to keep in touch with a man.
I asked why, and he said that all men are jerks including himself.
Including himself?
Do you want her not to get married?
- No. She should get married. - Then...
Why would you stop her from seeing anyone without knowing him?
Did you really wail after dreaming about her getting married?
- Is it true? - Did you really wail?
It was a joke, wasn't it?
I had a dream about my sister getting married.
When I woke up, tears came out.
Was it because you were sad or happy?
I think I was both sad and happy at the same time.
I felt happy...
because she must've married someone I approved of.
I was also sad because I would not be able to see her often.
Do you think no one can take care of her as well as you do now?
I tend to think they're not dependable.
Do you have a girlfriend now?
No, I don't. I've been single for 4 or 5 years.
Why aren't you seeing anyone?
I don't even think of dating someone because I can't afford it.
Wasn't there any problem when you had a girlfriend...
because of your obsession of her?
Our dad was working late, and Da Bin was alone at home.
So I sent my girlfriend home early,
so I could go home and cook dinner for Da Bin.
Didn't your girlfriend hate it?
We had a big fight next day.
You could have prepared your own meal, right?
I eat well by myself.
Then why did you have to go home to cook for her?
She doesn't eat properly when she's alone at home.
I doubt that.
- When you are... - Right?
She could skip a meal sometimes to lose weight.
When you're in love, you don't think of anything else.
Wherever I am, I think of my sister first.
What I don't understand is...
Why should she keep her door open?
If she keeps her door closed,
I feel like she's upset.
- Why? - It feels like...
she's angry or depressed.
You feel like she closed her heart when she closed the door?
Don't you think your sister might need some time alone?
I didn't think about that.
That's why.
Your sister can't relax even at home.
I don't even want my dog to peep in my room.
I hate it.
- When I change or something... - You feel the stare.
It feels like there is a camera.
It feels like a camera is following me.
It must feel so uncomfortable...
if a person follows your around.
Don't people around you say anything about it?
Don't they mention anything about your obsession with your sister?
My friends talk about it a lot.
- Right? - My mom even asked me...
if I have feelings for my sister.
When I hear things like that,
I become annoyed...
because I'm just fulfilling my duties as a big brother.
Is there any other brother...
who does that?
I'm sure some other brothers do it too.
I'm a big brother too, but I don't do that.
I think big brothers who aren't like me are the weird ones.
We're all weird then.
(You can't change my mind.)
Let's hear from their mom. Hello, ma'am.
Hello.
You must be concerned too.
What do you think?
I'm very concerned.
People keep asking me...
if they're really brother and sister.
- You asked him too. - Yes. I asked my daughter...
if her brother has feelings for her.
They're grown up now.
She said that wasn't it, but my son is...
too obsessed.
That's why I made my daughter live with me in Seoul.
Exactly. Your son says...
your divorce made him want to protect his sister.
You must feel a bit guilty.
Yes. It's my fault.
I must have told my son...
to take care of his sister.
You said that?
- Yes. - Of course.
I told him to take care of her.
But now it's become an obsession.
Do you think it's better now than when they lived together?
No.
They talk on the phone...
for more than an hour.
What would they even talk about every day?
- More than an hour? - It must be so hard.
Isn't it painful?
There's nothing I can do.
When I don't pay attention,
he asks me if I'm listening to him.
- That's the first thing he says. - On the phone...
Does he nag you a lot too?
Yes.
I don't eat much meat.
Then he nags me to eat more meat.
If I say, "Let me decide what I eat,"
he gets angry at me.
(Why do you answer like that?)
- At you? - Yes.
- That's rude of him. - Why...
She can take care of herself.
(You're the rude one.)
As I was living alone,
he must have wanted to take care of me.
(Sense of responsibility)
I keep getting sick and need surgery.
There's something I find weird.
You make sure your sister comes home early.
It's something you've been doing for a long time.
So it's understandable.
But you talk to her on the phone for an hour?
You know your sister doesn't like it.
It's a different matter.
You're doing it for yourself.
But I just ask her how she's doing.
For an hour?
I scold her if she's done something wrong.
I think it's something I should do.
You do it every day, right?
You ask her what she ate every day.
That's what they do at the hospital.
- You love your sister, right? - Yes.
But she doesn't like it...
when you keep calling her.
I've never thought that she doesn't like it.
I haven't been able to tell him.
You should tell him.
She doesn't want to hurt him.
- That's right. - He cares so much about her.
She just doesn't want to hurt you.
You said you scold her.
- Yes. - But you're not...
much older than her.
You act like a dad.
But my sister sometimes does...
immature things.
Let's ask their mom.
Does your daughter often do immature things?
No. She is very mature.
She is very mature.
"No."
(She's not the immature one.)
She sounds so concerned.
Why do you think your daughter hasn't been able to...
tell her brother how she feels?
My son is soft-hearted.
Also,
when his sister says something,
he gets hurt a lot.
That's why my daughter is so worried.
She cries a lot.
She's stressed out...
by her brother's obsession.
She's been dealing with the stress by herself.
If I say something to my son,
my daughter is the one who suffers.
(Her daughter suffers.)
So...
you're scared of your son,
and your daughter is scared of her brother.
That's what's happening here.
What if this continues?
I'm so worried he won't even get married.
He sometimes jokes that he wants to live with me forever.
I'm worried he'll really want to do that.
- Has he actually said that? - It's a joke, right?
Has he made such a joke?
- Yes, he has. - Unbelievable.
Well...
(He's actually said that?)
"I want to live with you."
"I don't want you to get married."
Do you mean it?
- I guess. - Yes, I meant it.
I don't understand.
Your sister lives with Mom.
And both your parents are alive.
If your parents were dead,
it'd be more understandable, but they aren't.
You should live your own life.
I thought it was a natural thing to do.
I thought I could make everyone happy...
by sacrificing myself.
But...
I'm a bit worried.
Today you're meant to get hurt.
- Are you... - He has to.
ready to get a little bit hurt?
(Your sister is suffering.)
I thought I was ready,
but I'm getting hurt even at this moment.
- Something is not right. - My goodness.
Your mom tells you that your sister is suffering.
"Really? I've been doing it for her sake."
"I feel sorry for making her uncomfortable."
That'd be normal.
But if you're like,
"I've given you so much love. Think of what I've done for you."
"How could you say those things to Mom?"
- This is abnormal. - Absolutely.
I'll be blunt.
You played house with your sister when you were little.
And you've been continuing all these years.
The thing is, your sister doesn't think it's fun anymore.
"It's not fun anymore."
"I'm too old for this now."
But if she says that to you, you'd get hurt.
She can't tell him.
So she's been playing along with you.
To me, it looks so weird.
Are you going to continue?
Your sister is 29 now.
- Yes. - Are you going to continue?
Even when she turns 40 and 50?
I guess I'll change when she finds her partner.
When you stop doing something you've been doing for a long time,
you get withdrawal symptoms.
You're so used to it.
It's become your daily life.
How long has it been?
- She's 29 now. - It's been more than a decade.
- 20 years. - For the past 20 years,
you've been asking her how she's doing.
It's become a habit.
If you don't do it, it'd feel weird.
It's become a routine.
I disagree.
You're like that...
- I don't think so. - even if you disagree.
Imagine you stop doing it.
You won't be able to stop.
- Try not doing it... - You can't stop.
for a month.
Let alone a month,
try to stop for a day. I'm sure you can't.
You've become too used to it.
Is it for your own happiness or...
- It's for my sister's happiness. - No.
Your sister doesn't like it.
- She's not happy. - Let's ask her.
Are you happy?
- Tell him even if he gets hurt. - Tell him the truth.
- Be honest. - Tell him.
- I'm not happy. - You're not happy.
(I'm not happy.)
Do you admit that it was too much?
Partly, yes.
But I didn't do it only for my own sake.
- Of course. - We're not blaming you.
You tried to protect your sister.
When your sister is in kindergarten,
elementary school,
middle school, and high school, and when she's grown up...
She'll be middle-aged soon.
She'll turn 60 before long.
(What?)
Shouldn't your attitude change...
- or not? - You should have given her space.
Imagine your dad...
trying to touch your crotch in front of his friends.
(Let me touch my son.)
Right now.
- In kindergarten... - Exactly.
If he continues...
(Would it be okay?)
You're in high school, but he continues to do it.
Even when you're in college and even when you work.
That's what's happening here.
- We're not blaming you. - We're not.
It's just a little too much.
Your sister is playing along with you.
- That's right. - She doesn't want to hurt you.
- Exactly. - She wants to say,
"Stop it, you idiot!"
But she can't say that.
How do you feel now after hearing what she said?
Did it change your mind?
After hearing it all,
I do feel that it was a bit too much.
But I feel hurt too.
- Of course. - Of course.
- I understand. - I was doing it...
- for my sister's sake. - Of course.
She knows it.
I'm just sad that I found out only now.
- Exactly. - You're smart.
I'm also sad to find out this is what other people think.
- Of course. - I understand.
Think about it.
If you continue, you won't be the only one who looks weird.
People will think your sister is weird too.
You want to take all your sister's suffering away, right?
- Yes. - That's the point.
Do you feel bad right now?
- You do. - You probably do.
You know that your brother loves you a lot.
- Yes. - Tell him that.
You need to tell him that you won't feel bad...
because this is necessary to improve the relationship.
I won't feel bad.
Thank you for doing this for me until now.
From now, I want you to put yourself first.
- Simply put, - That's right.
she wants to be recognized as an adult.
She can take care of herself now.
She wants to be recognized as an adult.
- Smile. - How are you feeling?
To be honest,
my thoughts remain unchanged.
However, I am not a fool.
- That's right. - Of course.
I will try to cut back.
Be wise about this.
It's time for the guests to vote. Shall we start with Nancy?
I think it's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
Your sense of obligation to protect your sister...
shouldn't become the right...
to control her however you want.
To be honest, I don't think it's a worry.
My brother is very brusque.
You are envious of Da Bin.
He never calls me by my given name alone.
He always goes, "Lee Ju Won!" He always calls me that way.
I am a bit envious that Da Bin's brother goes, "Daughter."
Depending on their situations, people can think differently.
I don't think it's a worry.
Even though Da Bin's brother became a bit upset,
- he learned how his sister feels. - That's right.
I am sure he will become better in no time.
I also don't think it's a worry.
Even if it's a worry, it's on a cute level.
"Why doesn't my brother love me?"
It would be a bigger worry.
I think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(Please send us your worries.)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Please say your last words to your sister.
I have always felt bad for you.
I will try to be a better brother.
I am sorry. I love you.
Please be specific. How will you be a better brother?
I will nag her less.
Stop nagging altogether.
I don't think I will be able to do that.
I will nag you less.
I will refrain from doing things you don't like.
My goodness.
I will try hard.
Show us the result.
(The result)
(How many people related to Da Bin's worry?)
There are 200 people in the audience, right?
147.
(147 votes)
Thank you for coming.
"The Man Who Will Likely Fail".
This person sent a story because of an immature man.
(Spring, spring, spring, spring has come)
It hasn't come to my family.
The entire family is suffering because of one person.
It's my 39-year-old brother who still hasn't come to his senses.
A year ago, my brother opened a store.
"Where is my brother? He isn't at the store."
"He went to a nearby café."
"Where is my brother? Did he go somewhere?"
"He went to Phuket for a change of air."
- Phuket! - Thanks to that,
the sales is plummeting. However, there is a bigger problem.
"Lend me 2,000 dollars so that I can pay my credit card bill."
"Mom, lend me 4,000 dollars so that I can pay back my loan."
He lends money from the family all the time.
"You need to pay more attention to the store."
"Are you nagging me? I will take care of it."
He doesn't listen to anything his family members say.
Will he come to his senses if his business goes under?
Please stop my brother.
What are your initial thoughts?
If my sister is like him,
I would be very frustrated.
- I thought you would say, - "My sister is like him."
"My sister is like him."
My sister has a job.
Fortunately, she is working harder...
than I thought or expected.
She is working harder than you thought or expected.
- If my sister is like him... - You would be very frustrated.
Did you think your sister would be very lazy?
Yes, I thought she would quit.
- Really? - You didn't expect much.
Brothers tend to borrow money from each other.
Have you done that?
- I have an older brother. - I see.
If my brother were in the situation,
I would feel frustrated.
However, I have trust and respect for my older brother.
If he needs money,
I will lend him money...
You can't send him money since you don't use online banking.
(He must overcome his technological illiteracy first.)
You will have to give him cash in person.
We will need to hear from the younger brother.
Let's invite him to the stage. Please come on out.
(Who is worried about his immature older brother?)
(Kim Kwang Su)
[VIU Ver] E358 Hello Counselor "Are All Elder Brothers Like Him?" "NCT 127 (Doyoung, Jaehyun, Mark), Momoland (Yeonwoo, JooE, Nancy)" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
Welcome.
You said that your older brother opened a store.
What kind of a store is it?
He is running a castella store.
- A castella store. - Yes. He opened it...
last year.
The store is only a year old,
but it's close to going under.
I received castella today.
- Yes. - Did your brother send it to me?
- Yes. - Then I am on his side.
I am on his side.
It would be nice if the business is going well,
but it's close to going under.
When the store opened, the sales were pretty good.
After a month...
A month?
Yes. He started going to work at 1 or 2pm.
In the afternoon, he would leave the store...
- to the part-timer. - Where did he go?
The sales dropped.
If he doesn't pay attention to the store,
what exactly does he do?
About 2 or 3 months after opening the store,
he began to date a woman who runs a café.
(He started a relationship.)
- He started a relationship. - A relationship!
He should still pay attention to the store.
What frustrates me...
is that he is rarely at his store.
Does he go to the café?
He goes to the café.
It looks like...
he helps out at the café without payment.
Does he serve or make tea?
He works at the café...
and pays for the ingredients.
Judging from what we heard,
- he is romantic. - I know.
When the employees of the café have a get-together,
- he pays. - Why?
He pays for his girlfriends' employees.
He pays for their get-togethers.
Last year, he went to Japan and Phuket...
with his girlfriend.
He went on a trip with the owner of the café.
His gestures would be cool if his store is doing well.
- That's right. - However, he shouldn't do that...
when his store is about to go under.
Since he doesn't have much money,
my father lent him 50,000 dollars when he opened the store.
My mother and I also lent him 10,000 dollars.
He also got a loan of 30,000 dollars...
and sold his gold necklaces and bracelets.
Everything went into his business.
He is behind on monthly rent and utility bill.
To pay his part-timer,
he asks Mother for help.
She gives him 2,000 or 3,000 dollars a month.
I have given him money without telling my wife.
You gave him money without telling your wife.
He sold gold necklaces to go on a trip.
My mother had accumulated...
emergency fund of 10,000 dollars for my brother.
- He spent all of it. - He spent all of it.
Would you lend money to your brother in the same situation, Mark?
Would you use online banking?
Would you?
"Mark, please lend me some money."
I would lend him money, but...
Would you talk to your brother?
- "Please come to your sense." - Yes.
I think I will do that a lot.
Yes.
What did your brother say when you tried to talk to him?
"What do you know about my situation?"
After what happened,
my parents gave up on my brother.
- It's impossible to talk to him. - No.
I shouldn't have eaten that castella.
Listening to the story makes me uncomfortable.
When we listen to the story, there are parts we don't understand.
We should hear from his brother.
- His story might be different. - That's right. Hello.
Hello.
(Who is putting his girlfriend before his family?)
- He is handsome. - He is tall and handsome.
The two brothers are tall and handsome.
Let us get straight to the point.
Kwang Su says you neglect your store.
Do you acknowledge that?
He might think that now.
In summer,
the sales of castella went down.
To find a way to bring up the sales,
I studied recipes at my girlfriend's café.
I learned recipes at the café...
and practiced the next day. There were days like that.
- Okay. - That's why I was gone...
whenever he visited the store late.
It's not like I don't do anything.
When I go to work, I bake bread and tart.
I make everything on the menu.
Your brother said...
you spend more time at your girlfriend's café...
to help out.
We plan to merge the two businesses in the future.
That's why I go to her café to learn.
To pay for your monthly rent and utility bill,
you need your family's help.
I am trying to sell the store.
It hasn't been successful.
No. This is my first time to struggle financially.
- It's my first time. - It has never happened before.
No. It was also my first time to ask for my family's help.
I have been too embarrassed to ask for help.
He says it was his first time to ask for his family's help.
He says this has never happened before.
Are these recent developments?
Yes, they are. Back in the days, he neither drank...
nor smoked.
He never partied...
- at night. - He lived diligently.
When he received his pay check, he spent it on his children.
He didn't spend it on himself.
Does he have children?
In that case, can't you be more understanding?
- These developments are recent. - Last year,
he got a divorce.
He has two sons...
who are 8 and 10 years old.
- Are both of them... - Yes.
- under his care? - Are both of them under his care?
Yes, they are.
Since he has no means to care for them,
my parents are responsible...
for their food and clothes.
Since my brother is struggling financially,
he even used what the children had saved up...
from their allowances.
There were about 3,000 dollars.
I heard that he spent it.
It can't be helped if you are struggling financially.
He is not on speaking terms...
with my father.
- My goodness. - It ruined their relationship.
That's the current situation.
If you do all the work...
without hiring a part-timer, you will save more money.
- That's right. - Then you will need less help.
To look after my children,
I need to use a part-timer in the afternoon.
He started out...
at a small store.
Still, he had 1 manager and 3 part-timers...
- at all times. - At a castella store?
How big is the store?
- It is 26m². - 26m²?
(There are 5 people in the 26m² store.)
He doesn't even need to be at the store...
to keep it running.
He should do everything by himself if the store is so small.
I tried to talk to him...
about cutting down the cost of labour.
If you had worked hard...
with desperation and diligence...
before you failed,
your family would have been more willing...
to offer help.
However, you went on a trip to Phuket.
Even though your business is suffering,
you pay for the café employees' get-together.
It's something...
- your family can't understand. - That's right.
A desperate man wouldn't act that way.
You took out a loan to go on a trip.
Don't you think you are failing to get a grasp of the reality?
Both my girlfriend and I were having a hard time.
We needed an escape.
To come up...
with new menus,
- we went on a trip. - You went to Phuket...
to come up with new menus.
(Is it his goal to spread the cuisine of Phuket?)
They must have special food.
In that case, what was the goal of your trip to Japan?
- The trip to Japan... - It was for the new menus.
came first.
Then what was the goal of your trip to Phuket?
- Was it for travelling? - Was it for cooling your head?
- Yes. - Was it for a healing time?
I went to Phuket to travel.
He says he went to Japan for new menus.
I think he just visited nice restaurants,
but he says it was for new menus.
Our thoughts are the same.
(Our thoughts are the same.)
He came up with an excuse.
What is the current situation?
Does he do a good job of looking after the children?
He says he needs part-timers to look after the children,
but he makes our parents do all the work.
On weekends, the children stay with their dad...
since they don't go to school.
The older child calls his grandma and goes,
"Grandma, I am really hungry."
"Would you please come and pick us up?"
He hadn't fed them.
I don't think he had.
Surprised, Mother picked them up...
and cooked for them.
Recently, my parents went on a three-day trip...
with their friends.
Before they went, they told my brother repeatedly...
to make dinner for the children.
However, my brother didn't do that.
My parents ordered chicken for the children...
during the trip.
(That's too much.)
They ate it as dinner for two days.
(They ate that chicken as dinner for two days.)
His second son...
is eight years old. He was craving for jjajangmyeon.
He asked, "Grandma, could you order jjajangmyeon for me?"
However, my brother decided against it...
since he didn't want jjajangmyeon.
The children didn't eat dinner that day.
I don't understand that.
Why did you make them eat chicken instead of a home-cooked meal?
Why did you forbid them from eating jjajangmyeon?
Children need to eat heartily.
- I don't understand that. - From what we heard,
it was your parents...
who ordered chicken...
when they were travelling.
I didn't neglect my children.
When I called my children to order food for them,
my mother had already ordered the chicken.
The children called their grandma because they were hungry.
They didn't eat breakfast.
We don't eat breakfast.
Children need breakfast!
- What are you talking about? - Before his second son...
started school, I offered to buy him a backpack.
However, he wanted to go shopping with his dad.
- That was what he wanted. - Yes.
He didn't want to go shopping alone with his uncle.
He wanted his dad to accompany us.
Because my brother is at the café on weekdays,
he couldn't come.
What are your parents' thoughts?
The children's grandpa and grandma.
Even though my brother is their son,
they gave up because it's too hard for them.
A few years ago, my mom got a surgery for cancer.
She needs to be careful not to get stressed out.
- That's right. - As for my father,
he still works.
My mother works at a gas station, too.
My brother has it easy.
- That's right. - I can't help but think that.
While we can't hear...
every detail,
the main point remains the same. I bet the family feels like...
he has changed ever since he began...
to frequent the café.
It's not just the family. His friends and acquaintances...
feel the same.
He says you are so focused on your girlfriend...
that you changed.
What do you think about that?
When I was struggling,
my girlfriend healed me.
Do you keep in touch with the children's mother?
She left home in 2016.
I haven't heard from her ever since.
- You lost touch with her. - Yes.
Your children must have received an emotional scar...
from having their mother disappear so suddenly.
I think they received a bigger emotional scar than me.
Wouldn't the children think that their dad is missing as well?
I bet they do.
- That's right. - Well,
my heart aches, too.
You should be there for the children.
How old are they?
10 and 8 years old.
- They are young. - At that age,
the shock of losing their mom...
- must be devastating. - That's right.
You should look after your children.
If you don't do that, they might regress.
"No one looks after me. I have neither mom nor dad."
To receive attention,
they might act strange.
I have seen children do that in one program.
How are the children? Are they okay?
I heard that my older nephew...
wet his bed in sleep.
- He is 10 years old. - He is 10 years old.
My younger nephew shows aggression.
His personality turned violent.
When I talk to him, he is always pessimistic.
When I say, "Wouldn't it be nice to do this?"
He goes, "No one will be happy even if I do this."
"Dad won't compliment me."
He says those things.
- Does he say those things? - Yes.
My older nephew...
is very aware of his surroundings.
- That's bad. - He is full aware...
that his grandma is his caretaker.
When his grandma cleans the house, he offers to do the dishes.
- He is still young. - He cleans up after himself.
He acts like an adult.
He asks his grandma if he did a good job.
I feel bad for him.
Recently, my wife called my older nephew.
He asked, "Who is this?"
My wife said, "It's your aunt."
"Why don't you have my number in your contact?"
He said that he erased her number since she didn't call recently.
If he feels like...
an adult doesn't care about him,
he goes ahead...
- and erases the number. - He distances himself.
He does that.
One time, we ate meat together.
My older nephew didn't eat.
He kept grilling meat and piling it up on his plate.
When I asked him why he wasn't eating,
he said that his dad needs to eat when he comes home.
- He kept food for his dad. - He loves his dad.
My goodness, he loves his dad.
Whenever I see those behaviours, my heart aches.
It's not the time to find new recipes.
Any children at the age of 10 and 8 need attention.
Your children need even more love and attention.
My older son hit my younger son and said,
"Mom left because of you."
That happened once.
My younger son used to be cheerful at the kindergarten.
He used to be popular.
Then he lost his laughter.
I heard that...
he is dazed during classes.
My goodness.
It must have broken your heart.
I bet it did.
Did you hear that he saved meat for you?
Yes, I did.
How did you feel upon hearing it?
My goodness.
Of course you felt bad. He is your son.
My goodness.
His young son said,
"Who would love me for this?"
"There's nobody to love me."
"It's not like Dad will love me if I do this." For a child to say it...
- It's really... - It's heartbreaking.
heartbreaking.
After hearing about the children,
I took my children to my girlfriend's café often.
Every time, my girlfriend treated them really well.
My children think of her as a kind person who gives free things.
They really like her.
That stabilized the situation, and we fought less.
His girlfriend must be in a difficult situation.
She mustered up her courage and came out here.
Hello.
It's not easy for you to be here.
We heard about everything that's been going on.
Why did you decide to come here?
It's been really tough.
I actually really want to go home right now.
His family thinks he doesn't take good care of his children...
and that he only cares about me.
But that's not true.
Despite the difficult situation, he's taking care of the children.
If I were in his situation, I wouldn't be able to do it.
But his parents...
think it's not enough.
But you knew he wasn't good at doing business.
You knew he was new to this.
- Yes. - He helped you a lot at your café.
Since you are more experienced, you could've helped him.
Why didn't you help him at his store?
There wasn't anything I could do to change the situation.
What I could do was... In summer, the bread is less popular.
To make the matters worse,
the egg crisis happened. All those things made things difficult.
Did you know that he was financially struggling?
At the time, I didn't know that it was this serious.
- When did you find out? - I had no idea.
You must've felt sorry about asking him to travel abroad.
I assume he paid for everything.
He didn't pay for everything.
(He nods.)
We divided the expenses.
- Right. - Whenever we had a get-together,
he never paid.
I let him buy me dinner or pay for small things.
He cannot not spend at all.
But I usually pay for the big things.
It's quite understandable.
You heard her. What do you think now?
It seems like his girlfriend is very considerate of him.
I understand her well.
But he's missing the point.
What do you mean?
He always says that he's going to work hard.
- You mean your brother. - But his job is...
to open the shop at 9am sharp.
- That's his job right now. - His shop.
He has to do it until the store gets taken.
He says those things while being lazy.
So it's hard for us to trust his words.
I think he's just lazy.
(His family thinks he's just lazy.)
He goes to work in the afternoon and stays there until night.
He stays up all night and sleeps in the morning.
I don't understand his routine.
Why do you stay up all night and sleep in the morning?
- The reason he gives is... - It's because of the recipe.
But when I hear it, it's nothing to do with the recipe.
He doesn't even drink.
Why do you stay up all night and sleep in the morning?
There are things only my girlfriend can make.
We prepare that at night.
When she finishes early, she finishes around 1 to 2am.
Until she finishes, I calculate the expenses...
and balance the accounts.
What do you think about what your brother said?
It's not like I'm playing.
I am trying to save my store and to find a way.
I hope he will have more trust in me.
What do you think?
It's my first time hearing that.
What we wanted was to hear him say those things.
(They wanted to have a conversation with him.)
He and Father don't talk.
Being in the middle, I wanted to make things better.
So I suggested that we have a family dinner once a month.
We did that,
but every time, he just goes to his girlfriend's café.
And he says he's too busy to come.
Can't you afford to attend the family meeting once a month?
There was no family meeting.
- It didn't exist. - Your brother just said it.
He said you never attend it.
I don't always miss it.
It's nice if we get to have a nice conversation.
But whenever I talk, my father doesn't listen.
He doesn't listen.
My father is someone who thinks the sky is red if he says so.
He forces you to listen to him and to do what he tells you to do.
That's how he is.
So we can't have a sound conversation,
and I end up keeping my mouth shut.
Can you feel that he's becoming more distant from his family?
Yes. This is why.
He's the eldest son. But when he says something,
his family doesn't listen to him.
Since they are his family,
they should have faith in him and encourage him to do well.
But they don't. They always just scold him and blame him.
Is that why you built up a wall...
and didn't join the family trip to celebrate your father's birthday?
I didn't go on the family trip because my situation is so serious.
I got my hands on my children's money...
because my family refused to help, and I had nowhere to turn to.
I cried when I took out the money...
It was his children's money. He must've felt so terrible.
(He wants to understand his brother, but he's too far to reach.)
Does your father push you to believe what he believes?
Is he too hard-headed?
From the way I see it, it's my brother who's very stubborn.
- Your brother is stubborn too? - Yes.
When he was working at Father's gas station,
he got into too much trouble with customers.
If a customer enters in the wrong direction,
you could just go to the other side and fill the gas.
But my brother always told the customer to restart the car.
Even though there was a queue, he asked the customer to re-park it.
He is...
very strict to customers.
- He's inflexible. - To himself,
he is very forgiving.
So Father asked him not to get into a fight with customers...
and to treat them more kindly. That's why...
one day Father got agitated and told him that he should...
just do what he's told.
(It's frustrating.)
- It must be really tough for you. - I know.
It must be the toughest for him.
Just leave that town.
Just move.
I run my own store.
And every time something like this happens, Mother comes to me.
She comes and complains to me when there's no customer.
I got so stressed out...
that last year I went to see a psychiatrist.
(Was it that serious?)
The doctor said my stress level was too high...
and that I should get hospitalized right away.
He told me to tell my wife about it and to come back to the clinic.
But I couldn't do that because of my work.
Did you know that it's been very hard for your brother...
and that he even went to see a psychiatrist?
Yes. I knew.
There's nothing he can do to fix the situation,
but my parents, because they're frustrated by me,
complain to my brother.
Why do you think your brother decided to come out here?
I think he wants me to listen to what the family says...
and do what they say.
They don't know how I feel and how I am inside.
They just look how I look on the outside and judge me.
I am going to go back...
to who I was before.
Your parents will be patient with you.
But I think you should visit them and tell them about it.
I'm sure you are pressured about being the first son.
You must feel guilty about not being a good father...
to your two children.
You must feel bad about many things.
Perhaps those have taken a toll on your relationship with your father.
(Perhaps that's why he's not getting along with his father.)
What do you want from your brother?
Tell him why you decided to come here.
First of all, I hope you will prioritize your family...
as you live.
I hope you will realize that this moment...
is very important to your children.
By the way, your brother has been asking you to trust him.
Are you willing to trust him and wait for him to come around?
I have been trusting him...
since last spring.
I need to see him actually change.
He thinks he needs to be in a better situation...
to go see his father and to say what he wants to say.
But your parents don't want you to come when you're better.
They must be waiting for you to come and talk to them now.
So it's your choice to make.
Let's vote now. Mark.
I think it's a worry.
I am worried about his children.
I want him to prioritize his children.
I think the problem has been solved today.
I will vote that this is not a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
I think it's a worry.
The financial problem...
and the problem with his father...
is something...
he can fix since he's an adult.
But his children's childhood...
will never come back once it's gone.
I also think it's a worry.
There are times when you need to make a decision for yourself.
But he's been doing that until now.
So from now on, I hope he will make choices...
for his children and family.
Please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - The time is up.
Please say something to your brother.
Say his name.
(He's excited.)
- Kwang Sook. - Is that your name?
Kwang Sook.
"Kwang Sook"?
- It's Kwang Su. - Kwang Su.
- Kwang Su. - Is it "Kwang Su"?
"Kwang Su".
My goodness.
It's because...
- Kwang Sook. - When we told him to call his name,
he hesitated a little before calling him...
"Kwang Sook".
I thought that's why he didn't mention his name.
Since he was little,
he's been caring about me.
He still cares about me.
I've been very hurt...
(Feeling sorry to his brother, he becomes emotional.)
And I've been worrying...
everyone...
in the family.
Now that I got to hear about how everyone feels...
and how my brother feels,
I will try to lessen their worries.
I will try my best. I love you, Kwang Su.
Your parents and your sons...
might be watching this.
Is there anything you want to tell them?
My dear sons,
Daddy...
(He becomes emotional whenever he thinks about his children.)
Just tell them that you love them.
I love you, my darlings.
(I love you, my darlings.)
Cheer up.
Thank you for coming.
She must've helped him a lot.
- And... - He could've been really lost.
He could've met a girl like me.
(Laughing)
You have...
a very wise and beautiful girlfriend.
You have to make sure people don't misunderstand her.
I hope you will work hard...
and be tough.
Your children want you...
to be there for them when things are tough.
If you show up in front of them when you're successful,
it will be already too late. They would've been hurt.
I hope you will be the father who stays with them...
at all times, whether you're doing well or not.
Let's see how many votes they got.
Please reveal the result.
All right.
(The last digit is 2.)
(How many votes did he get?)
Is it 152? 152.
That's a lot.
(He got 152 votes.)
Well done.
It's titled "Cinderella Man".
Hello. I am a married man from Busan who is in his 30s.
People say I am a family man and a good husband.
It's because I spent all my time with my children and wife.
However...
"Honey, can I meet my friends tonight?"
"What? Are you kidding me?"
"Never."
My wife can't stand me going outside.
Why?
"Aren't you coming home?"
"I am coming. You already called me 20 times."
My friends became distant from me now.
The problem is that she doesn't let me go to a company dinner.
It's not like I want to go out all the time. Just once a month.
Is it too much to ask?
Please let her stop imprisoning me.
Why would she do that?
(He wants his wife to stop imprisoning him.)
Let's bring him in.
(Who is the person worried about his wife who cages him in?)
(Kwon Ji Man)
(He seems very unusual.)
He looks like he would be as free as a bird.
Give him this.
- Have a seat. - Have a seat.
He looks a bit like BewhY.
He does.
Please introduce yourself.
Hello. I am...
(Coughing)
I am Kwon Ji Man from Busan. And I am 36 years old.
- Hello. - Welcome.
(Welcome)
He looks young.
How badly does your wife restrict you?
After I finish work,
she tells me...
to come straight home.
What?
- She... - We just asked you one question.
She tells him to come straight home.
She asks you to come home.
- He's very nervous. - It's okay.
- It's okay. - He's nervous.
- Why do you hit yourself? - NCT!
Hold his hand, Do Young.
- Tell him it's okay. - We are nervous too.
Cheer up.
What's wrong? He's like an older brother.
You just go back and forth your house and office.
Yes.
- Relax. - You can just relax and talk.
When did you get married?
I got married when I was 27.
Has she been doing that all along?
She's been doing that since we had children.
How old is your children?
Our first child is 9 years old. Our second is 4 years old.
- No, 5 years old. - Is that right?
(He's still nervous.)
You can get confused.
Why does she stop you from going out?
When there's a company dinner party,
I call her and ask for her permission.
She says I can't go and I should come straight home.
My curfew is 10pm.
When I go home later than 10pm, she keeps calling me.
- She calls you at 10pm. - She calls me until I pick up.
- When you're 37? - I am 36.
When you are 36?
You are 36,
and you get scolded if you go home later than 10pm?
She nags at me a lot.
Doesn't your boss find it strange?
He does.
It's not like I am young.
He asks why my wife keeps asking me to come home early.
You said your friends hate it too. What do they think about this?
They ask me why I always bring my wife.
- Does she go with you? - Yes. She tags along.
- When you meet your friends? - Yes.
When I do that, my friends ask...
why my wife still tags along.
And they tell me to go home early.
They don't ask me to hang out.
- They don't? - They don't call me.
When was the last time you attended the company dinner?
It was at the year-end. I haven't met my friends since then.
- You've never met them this year? - No.
I get off work at 5:30pm, and I arrive home at 6:10pm.
Spring has come, but...
You said you want to be free just once a month.
- Is it true? - Yes, it is true.
This is not a hearing.
What do you want to do?
I used to be a taekwondo instructor.
- Were you? - I want to go to a gym...
and work out a little.
- You want to work out? - I want to go fishing too.
I don't get a life at all.
- He just... - I...
don't understand this.
- You get off work at 5:30pm. - Yes.
- He gets home at 6:10pm. - But...
- your curfew is 10pm. - Yes.
Can't you work out before you go home...
and get home by 10pm?
She starts suspecting me.
- She suspects you. - She asks if I'm partying.
Does she just want you beside her?
Yes. She loves me too much.
She loves me too much.
(Oh, dear.)
Wait.
(They are embarrassed.)
(Look at this man.)
He's a romantic.
(He's shy.)
He's a romantic.
- My goodness. - He's a romantic.
- What's so charming about him? - All right.
Let's meet his wife and ask her why she does this.
It will be faster to ask her.
Hello.
(Who is his wife who cages him in?)
You don't understand your husband's worry, do you?
I feel like he's always absent.
He's always absent.
- He always comes home. - Once a month...
What do you mean he's absent?
He always talks to his friends.
He doesn't want to talk to me.
He's always on his phone.
Is using his phone at home being absent?
- Are you... - He never talks to me.
- He doesn't talk to you. - We never talk.
But it's not like...
he's trying to meet someone bad.
He just wants to meet his friends.
When our child was three, we went to a wedding reception.
I thought only his male friends were there, but there were girls too.
And it shocked me.
(She's starting to suspect me again.)
Is that why you always tag along?
At first, I used to tag along.
But now I have given up.
- You gave up. - His boss said he cares too much...
about me and that I don't give him freedom.
He said I am too selfish and mean.
She doesn't tag along because his boss hated it.
That means you used to tag along to his company dinners too.
I went twice.
You went to his company dinner.
- Yes. - But if you keep calling him,
it's the same thing.
Wouldn't he get worried about what his boss thinks?
He says he will come after dinner. But he doesn't call me back.
He just gets out of reach.
- He doesn't pick up his phone. - Until what time?
- Until what time? - 6pm to the next morning.
- What's this? - What's that?
You forgot to tell us the most important thing.
What is that?
You went out of reach until the next morning?
She kept calling me,
so I felt really frustrated. I turned off my phone.
I just wanted to spend time the way I want.
So I partied with my friends that night.
Was that just once?
Do you have any trauma about drinking party?
My father used to drink a lot.
When my husband drinks,
he acts like my father.
In what way?
He tells me not to nag when he's drunk.
- He becomes rough. - Yes. He becomes coarse.
If it's due to your trauma, you wouldn't like him...
going out for a drink only,
but you also don't like him going to the gym.
You don't let him meet his friends. You don't let him do anything.
When he goes to the gym, he wants to go for a drink and come home late.
He might come home after working out.
You should trust him.
If he's going to keep his promise,
- It's fine? - I'm willing to think about it.
She's okay with it if you go to the gym only.
Can't you just to go the gym only?
But when I work out,
my friends...
want to go for a drink since we sweated,
and I end up going.
So basically you want to drink.
You're here to make us get her permission for drinking.
You just want to go for a drink,
don't you?
- Her mother's here too. - Yes.
She said she doesn't like him going out for a drink...
due to her trauma of her father.
He swore...
and broke everything in the house.
- When she was young. - So...
- it traumatized her. - I see.
When my son-in-law goes for a drink,
she wants him to come home.
She's pretty obsessed.
She doesn't let me talk to...
her husband.
- Why? - With you?
She doesn't let you talk to him?
Is she jealous?
(She's jealous.)
(It's not understandable.)
I only talk to him on the phone...
when my daughter's not around.
What happens when she finds out?
She gets angry...
and yells at me.
She doesn't let me sit next to her mother.
Not even next to her?
On the meal table,
I must sit at the far end.
Why won't you let him sit next to your mother?
- She's jealous. - I feel like they're isolating me.
When they talk, they get along,
but not with me, so I got jealous.
You were jealous? You really hated it when they were talking?
I felt like they were making fun of me.
One time, I had a meal...
separately in my room...
because I found them uncomfortable.
(Sighing)
We should listen to each other in a conversation.
But my wife talks alone.
- She talks alone? - Her voice rises when we talk.
It's not a good environment for our children,
so I avoid it.
I kind of do that because he won't listen to me.
Then our argument became serious,
and we had the police check on us.
(Even the police stopped by.)
- People misunderstood. - It was that bad?
We were in a pretty bad situation.
I ended up getting a panic disorder after having the first child.
My first son was diagnosed with ADHD in Grade 2.
I didn't have time for anything else since I was busy taking care of him.
I relied on him more and became obsessed...
because I was anxious.
I think she needed your help. What do you think?
I helped her a lot.
I suggested her to go on a trip together.
I tried my best.
But when we're back to our lives, it repeats.
(She has no break.)
- It's... - It's hard.
very difficult, right?
You probably thought about...
- why he doesn't talk to you. - Yes.
Why do you think he avoids you?
I lived in seclusion before I got married for three years.
I met him during that time.
He said he'll be my bodyguard. We went everywhere together.
- He said that but... - You still trust him?
He said that when you were dating.
He was nice when we had the first child,
but when we had the second child, he said, "You know what to do."
"Bye." I felt like he suddenly changed.
I also have a problem too.
He didn't change suddenly. He changed steadily.
It gets worse as you get more obsessed.
He has nothing to talk about with his mother-in-law.
They wouldn't talk about anything weird.
If you're obsessed about it, you've gone too far.
(She needs to realize how serious this is.)
Do you have any hobbies?
I went to church before I got married.
Even though I'm not a good singer, I met people in the choir.
But I found out my husband's family is Buddhists.
He didn't let me go to church.
This is hard.
- It's a crisis. - There are so many problems.
It's one after another.
Keep going.
I want to go to church, but since he doesn't like it I can't do anything.
How about you go to church once a week and sing,
and he goes for a drink?
How about you make a deal?
- I like it. - You do?
(It's a solution.)
- I like it. - What do you say?
- What do you say? - It's not wrong to go to church.
Not church. Something else.
(Negotiation fails.)
Why do you not like church? Because of your parents?
It's only a religion.
- We have freedom of religion. - Just accept it.
Is there a choir in temples?
We go to temple together every week.
They go to temple together every week.
- You do? - Yes.
- But it's different. - We only pray. Nothing else.
- No singing? - It's boring.
This is driving me crazy.
Regardless of religions,
you're asking her to...
- let you do what you want. - Yes.
- Then you should let her do it too. - Yes.
- And she likes going to church. - Yes.
(Intimidated)
- She's not scolding you. - Then it works.
But you're acting patriarchal. Why?
- My parents don't like it. - I see.
It's...
You should cover it for her.
It might be pretty difficult in real life.
Do your in-laws yell at you?
- Yes, they do. - That's why.
(It's hard.)
People sing on Buddha's birthday.
They probably have it. Don't you want to try that instead?
I went to a community center with my daughter.
Other mothers told the instructor...
not to hang out with me because I don't put on makeup or dress well.
They complained about my child too.
- Ugly people. - Goodness.
- That's ugly of them. - They dress well.
I became sensitive about it since I suffered panic disorder.
Even though people aren't interested in her,
she thinks people are paying attention to her.
She thinks people are whispering about her.
When someone says "Go ahead,"
she misunderstands it.
She misunderstands them.
I'm always worried about my wife,
so I cover for her.
Do you feel like people are talking about you?
I went to a school event.
People said I don't dress well behind me.
- No way. - No one would do that.
Since my first child doesn't stay still,
it's true that he catches attention.
It's my personal question.
Have you ever consulted a psychologist?
I have.
- Together with your family? - Yes.
Since I'm not mentally healthy,
I'm currently taking medicine.
It's sad because...
she had a father who was an alcoholic.
Her childhood trauma isn't completely cured.
- Of course. - It's incurable.
(Since she has no chance to gain confidence, she's more intimidated.)
Honestly, I think she's more worried.
Basically...
- Don't cry. - Okay.
Don't cry like your brother.
He thinks it's normal for him to have some alone time.
It's same for her too.
Of course.
Also, it made me angry when...
she said she stopped following him...
after his boss said something nasty to her.
Whether you're right or wrong,
family should support each other.
I think it's her husband's fault...
to have let him criticize her.
Good job.
(That's right, Do Young.)
Ask him yourself, Do Young.
Why didn't you say anything?
Explain.
Why didn't you say anything?
Let's say one thing you want from each other.
You go first. What do you want from her?
She was very kind when we were dating.
She was so pure like water.
- She was so kind. - Water?
- What? - She was so kind.
- Water? - What?
"Pure like water".
Fresh water.
(He's so poetic.)
Fresh water.
She didn't talk like that back then.
I want her to keep her voice down when she talks.
It's bad for your children too.
But we haven't heard that voice yet. I can't imagine it.
She can just tell me to give them medicine.
She's like, "Give them medicine!"
Like, "Give them medicine!"
Even though I'm working on it,
- she rushes me. - She's hasty.
Why would you do that even though he's working on it?
When he prepares medicine, he's so slow.
- I want him to hurry up. - Listen.
Even if he gives the baby medicine a few minutes later,
that wouldn't cause big trouble, right?
- Yes. - Your husband just wants you...
not to speak to him in an angry tone.
- That's what he wants. - To speak to him nicely.
I would've if he had kept his promises. Besides, I feel shy.
Still, you have to keep trying instead of making excuses.
- You shouldn't give up on that. - I tried hard.
But it didn't work.
Think about it.
You didn't yell at him when you were dating him.
I still remember what Yeong Ja said before.
I don't know if she read it from a book or not.
- I never read. - She tried to...
She tried to change the world, but failed.
So she tried to change the country, but failed again.
She tried to change her home, but failed.
However, when she changed herself, everything changed.
She once said that. Do you remember that?
- I think... - I said that.
what she said applies to your situation.
Both of you have to make an effort.
Tell him what you want from him.
Tell him just one thing.
I gained so much weight after giving birth to my baby.
So I lost confidence.
But he doesn't let me work out at a gym or swim.
He doesn't allow me to exercise.
(What is she talking about?)
I just want to work out at a gym.
Why don't you allow her to work out at a gym?
Why would you stop her from working out?
- This is ridiculous. - He complained the same thing.
He doesn't allow her to go out either.
Wasn't church the only place you didn't allow her to go to?
Why don't you let her work out?
- What's that? - They should switch their seats.
Why don't you let her work out?
- Did you think she'd go to church? - Please explain.
- Tell us why. - Their positions are reversed now.
- It costs you to go to a gym. - Yes. So?
He thinks it's a waste of money.
- Who? Your son-in-law does? - Yes.
Did you know that he didn't allow her to go to a gym?
- It costs money to drink too. - Yes, I did.
(I might end up crying like my brother did.)
Do you think you can make her wish come true?
(Will you make her wish come true?)
Sure.
- How? Please be specific. - How?
- I'll get you a gym membership. - This is good.
(I'll get you a gym membership.)
- I'll get you a gym membership. - This is good.
Find a church where there are work out machines in it.
I can't allow it.
He can't allow it.
- It helps to improve self-esteem. - Listening to both of them,
even though you were home with her,
I think your mind was somewhere else.
You also made her feel like being looked down on.
If he had asked if I got to exercise as much as I wanted,
and comforted me asking if I was tired from looking after the kids,
- I would have... - You just wanted comforting words.
Both of them want comforting words.
- That's right. - "Good work today."
- "Wasn't it difficult today?" - It's not a difficult thing to do.
But he doesn't express his feelings maybe because he's shy.
(Show each other your affection.)
Say a word to your wife for the last time.
Tell her by yourself.
I'll get you a six-month gym membership.
If you let me go out...
just once a month,
I'll relieve my stress outside and be a family man at home.
That's great.
You said you will protect your wife...
from the people who criticized her hair and fashion style.
Say something to them too.
Don't gossip about her again.
Gosh.
(Do it properly!)
- They will continue gossiping. - Do it properly.
Do Young, say something to them.
Hey, mind your own business.
(That feels so good.)
Let's start with Do Young. Do you think it's a worry?
I think it's a worry from his wife's perspective.
Not him?
It's possible to resolve the problem,
but I think it's a worry at present.
I think it's a worry.
However, I believe...
- Did you press the button? - Well...
- Press it. - He's...
He really is technologically illiterate.
(He proves that he's technologically illiterate.)
- He's technologically illiterate. - He wasn't lying about it.
I also think it's a worry.
- Press the button. - Press it.
Why did you point at her?
- It means she cast her vote. - Think to yourself.
- I also think it's a worry. - I see.
Yeon Woo is pointing at her too.
I also think it's a worry.
Please press the button if you think it's a worry.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5. 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5. 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - Time's up.
Why don't you say a word to your husband as well?
I'll allow you to go to the get-together once a month.
However, I don't want my kids to feel embarrassed about me.
Please make my wish come true.
(Make my wish come true as well.)
I wonder how many votes he got.
Please show us the result.
"Cinderella Man".
How many votes did he get? The last digit...
is three.
- How many votes did he get? - Of course...
- It's over 100. - It's 113.
He got a lot of votes.
Thank you.
As a result, this week's winner is...
"The Man Who Will Likely Fail".
The winner will receive a cash prize.
Do Young, you understand why your brother cried now, don't you?
I didn't expect to hear...
serious problems like this.
Say something to your brother.
(A word to Gong Myoung)
Now, I approve of your tears.
"I approve of your tears."
While listening to their stories,
I had a lot of thoughts.
I will do my best to become a person who can...
- resolve his problems well. - Great.
My parents watch this show often.
Mom and Dad, I'm on TV.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
("Jealousy" by Monsta X)
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